We've posted a video on Vimeo with John Goldingay. It is at first difficult truth. It then becomes vulnerable honesty. It ends with a difficult silence.
The difficult silence reminded me of a recent absence of any such silence. The absence of silence occurred during television coverage of a recent televised memorial service. It was a media event about a media event. Media events—and especially twice removed media events about media events—are very uncomfortable with actual grief. Grief is inarticulate and unpredicatable. It needs space and often, silence. Media events cannot harbour silence, because in silence media events cease to exist.
At the core of this particular media event about a media event is an inalterably human story, a person who once walked this earth is no longer with us. Regardless of what this person did do and didn't do; regardless of who this person actually was to us, or who we needed this person to be for us; regardless of what we thought or didn't think of him, he was a son, a brother, a husband and a father. He was a human being and on that alone had dignity and value. Now he is gone. The proper human response is grief.
Whatever your opinions of the man regarded in memoriam, watching his 11 year old daughter experience visceral public grief at the loss of her Daddy had to pierce even the hardest of hearts.
So yes, human hearts were pierced. But the media event itself does not have time to be pierced. It cannot broach silence. It must move on. Its predictable banality, the essence of its assuring comfort, compels it forward. It's jittery attention twanging at the slightest rustle of some fresh hubbub. Its hyperbolic gullet gobbling up unadorned grief in a single swallow. It is voracious and never satisfied. There aren't enough images of sufficient simplistic intensity. So it must vomit up its commodified chunks to be used again and again.
In this instance when the little girl grieved the loss of her Daddy, images of her were captured during the media event. The only human response was silence. At the memorial itself there was silence. During the initial media event recording the memorial there was a modicum of silence. But in the ensuing media event about a media event, the Great Miasma about which our children will reminisce, there can be no silence.
This is what I witnessed. The images of the little girl grieving were shown. When the images ended there was not silence. Literally one second after the images stopped the void was filled with an announcer's gravitas inflicted visage, "That was a difficult moment." One second after that stunningly infantile observation the announcer turned to a pundit and began asking for the pundit's analysis of the media event.
The way this commodified clip was dealt with had nothing to do with the content of the clip, which happend to be a grieving 11 year old girl. It could have been a football game, or a TV awards show, or a presidential speech. The grand and the ridiculous is all one and the same, a commodity. The media event about a media event has no choice but to plod forward in the way it was genetically engineered to plod forward, swallowing and regurgitating its own media vomit.
But a strange thing happen in this instance. The media event about a media event lurched awkwardly forward, and in doing so was in peril of rending itself free of its human symbionts who, in their humanity, were momentarily motionless. The media event feverishly lunged forward, as it always must, and for the briefest of moments it separated itself from the humans caught in the inertia of compassion. For the briefest of moments its voracious need was revealed in all its inhuman grotesqueness as it stood apart from all human sympathies.
Then in the blink of an eye, the symbionts recovered. They took up the pace to jog along side the great galumphing need, they snapped to attention and once again brought succor to the collective obdurate stare.
I think this is why the silence at the end of John's piece is so difficult, because he is vulnerable and human, and then he sits in silence and looks at us. He challenges our passive stare, challenges our complicity in consuming images of grief.
-Steve Frost/TWOTP